Sometimes as a parent it is easy to only respond to the kids when they are doing something wrong. When you have multiples, your mind is so busy trying to keep up with the demands of work, home and multiple kids that you sometimes forget that it is also important to respond to the kids when they do something good. Now is the time to change your reinforcement strategy. For the next week try responding to what your multiples do that is right, sweet or good.

Time Your Rewards and Praise Properly
The first thing that you need to know about praise and offering rewards for doing something well is that your timing needs to be strategic. If you offer to give a reward in exchange for a specific behavior beforehand then that is considered bribery and not a reinforcement of a good behavior. This means that in order to be effective at encouraging the behavior again you need to hold off on offering your praise and rewards until after the behavior has been done.

Reward Sparingly
While it seems like pop culture for parents requires that you give your multiples a treat or reward after everything that they do right, this is not the best parenting strategy. In order to make rewards special, you need to use them sparingly. This will make really big accomplishments special. For example, a time when you don't want to offer a reward is after your multiples walk into the house without throwing a temper tantrum. A good time to offer a reward is after they finally use the potty by themselves.

Phrasing Your Praise
While offering a physical reward for everything that a child does right is not a good idea, offering your praise more frequently is a good idea. However, it is important that you be specific with the phrasing of your praise. For example, a simple "good job" is less effective than saying "you did a good job putting away your clothes." Being specific about what you liked about the behavior will help to clarify your approval and help your child realize that you are paying attention to what they are doing.